Have you ever been around someone that never has anything positive to say?
Everyone has the right to be negative at some point in their lives. There will be circumstances and relationships that could play a major role in affecting someone’s attitude.
The question is… when those times come in your life, would you rather swim in the murky waters of negativity or work your way to the clear waters of a positive perspective?
OH NO! Not another POSITIVITY GURU!!! I get it. You do not wish to hear another person talk about how you should be positive no matter what the cost. You are sick of having someone point out that if you “just have a positive attitude, your day will get better.”
Not to worry!
This is not a “Let’s Get Positive” speech.
What I will attempt to do here is to help us focus on our relationships, how important they are, and why it is important for each of us to be a part of someone’s life helping them to be positive.
This is a “It Takes Work and Relationship to Be Positive” exhortation.
Let’s think about a clear glass of water. This clear glass of water is a representation of pure unadulterated positivity. There is no negativity in a clear glass of water.
Over a person’s life, negative things will happen. Negative people will infect them. Negative thoughts will arise. Insecurities, imperfections, troubles outside of their control, and rejection can take their toll on someone. These negative experiences stay with us. If we are not careful, they can cloud our judgment and especially hurt our relationships with others.
Each time something negative happens in our lives, imagine the same cup of water with blue food coloring dropped into it. The blue food coloring is a negative event, word, or thought.
Over time, many negative events begin to taint the clear water and turn it blue.
If we are not careful, the entire cup of clear water can turn blue. This is when we allow negativity to take over our thought processes and it infects everything we do.
Negativity produces more negativity in relationships. Have you ever been in a conversation where someone shares a negative story, and all of a sudden the conversation takes a giant leap into who can share the most negative information?
So how can we be a positive influence in our relationships with others to stop or even reverse the negative cycle? There is a tendency in some where we just want to avoid any negative people, circumstances and relationships. However, this just adds more blue food coloring to the already tainted water in someone’s life.
How do you take a negative person or relationship and turn it into a positive one? How do you remove the blue food coloring from a cup of water?
Please forgive the water and coloring analogy, but this is where it gets interesting!
You could poor out the water, wash the cup and fill it up again. This would be unrealistic in this case because no one can undo something negative that happens or that is said to them.
The best way to rid the cup of water of blue food coloring is to stick it under a faucet of clear water and continually fill the cup to overflowing until all the blue coloring has been washed out of it.
This is where we come in. If we begin to pour into our relationships encouragement, love, caring, respect, dignity, a listening ear, appreciation, affirmation, gratitude and anything that lifts a person above their circumstance, eventually the negativity in their life will slowly begin to disappear.
Unfortunately you cannot stop negativity in this life. You and I CAN keep the faucet of positivity flowing so we do not allow the negativity to cripple us or those we are in relationship with.
This can be applied at work, at home, at church, with your friends, and with your family.
Recently on Facebook, there have been friends that have been challenged to share three things they are thankful for, I’m assuming in order to focus more on the positive side of life than the ever-so-prevalent negative side of life. This is a great way to begin to change the color of the water back to crystal clear fresh perspective!
The next time you have a friend or co-worker that is being overly negative, take some time and feed in some positive encouragement – not in a fake way. Instead of shying away from them, decide to be the positive flow in their life. You may earn a deeper friendship in the process.
Take caution though! Beware that in your desire to take this on, you too can allow the negativity you are trying to overcome to overtake you. This is counter-productive. Look for your own source where you can refresh yourself, gain a more positive perspective in your life and flush out the negativity that can cloud your thinking, your decisions and your relationships.
Try an experiment at home with a cup of clear water, any color of food-coloring, and a faucet of clear water. Start with the clear cup and drop as many droplets as you can into and allow the food-coloring to overtake the water completely changing its color. Then begin to slowly turn on the faucet and watch the color change back to clear.
Let the experiment be a reminder of how we need to keep refreshing our minds, have an outlet and develop our relationships where negativity can be flushed on a constant basis.
Take 10 minutes and watch this video by Alison Ledgerwood (Social Psychologist) called, Getting Stuck in the Negatives (and How to Get Unstuck).
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